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How to Use the Social Skills Worksheets
Read all the social skills worksheets. Put a mark to the left of any which your student has mastered. It is time to move to the skills listed below that skill.
Put a circle to the right of any listed skill that your student currently participates in.
Review all the 15 social skill worksheets with your student and identify strengths and weaknesses. Considering the social skills pyramid
, do you need more base exposures, peak skills, or in between?
Set goals for one area on the social skills list.
Put a tally mark to the right of any listed skill they currently participate in.
Focus on areas that require social skill improvement. Review the list and set new goals every 4 to 12 weeks.
It is common to have only three or four goals social goals at a given time. These few goals are usually in different areas (the 15 areas are listed below.)
This list can be used as a social skills rubric to be used over time.
General Social Skills
These are general social skills everyone should master. Note that this social skill worksheet starts with very basic skills that we begin working on in the preschool years. The bottom of the list contains more advanced social skills for adults. Keep in mind that this is a long term process.
- Takes turns
- Follows directions
- Does not interrupt
- Introduces himself/herself
- Communicates clearly
- Listens to others who are talking
- Starts conversations with strangers
- Avoids monopolizing conversations or boring others
- Recognizes/responds to others body language
- Willingly maintains conversations about other peoples' interests
- Can share one's own interests enthusiastically
Each of these social skills worksheets for kids are provided as downloads individually, or at the bottom of the page for a download of all.
It will take several years for a young person to develop all these skills; and some do it more naturally than others.
Poor Conversation Skills
We have all probably had the displeasure of trying to start a conversation with a young person who would not do more than answer with single words and shrugs of the shoulder. If you notice your child often gives partial or negative answers when someone asks about their interests, plans, or favorite school subject, it signals a need for instruction on conversation skills.
Certainly we don't expect every young person to know what they want to be when they grow up, or to like studying. However, failure to be able to talk to someone who shows interest in them indicates a negative and uncooperative attitude. Even for a non-academically inclined student, there is a better response than shrugging their shoulders, or grunting "nothing," when queried about their favorite subjects.
Consider, for example, the following response: "Well, if racecars were a school subject, THAT would be my favorite." This tells the other individual far more about the young person, and satisfies the request in a more socially mature way.
Communication and Technology
Every since Alexander Graham Bell made his famous first call, communication systems have changed our daily lives. Using this technology correctly is part of modern socialization.
- Answers the phone
- Uses polite phone manners
- Takes correct messages
- Makes personal phone calls
- Recognizes appropriate use of cell phones
- Makes business phone calls
- Uses email
- Manages email communications
- Uses the internet for gaining information
- Uses the internet for commercial purposes
- Recognizes dangers of internet use
- Uses the internet for financial and business purposes
Hobbies and Personal Interests
- Develops own interests
- Gathers information about her/his interests
- Maintains own personal space, property, equipment neatly
- Develops skills related to personal interests
- Participates with others of like interests
We all have our own favorite interests; and some more easily lead to increased social interactions.
For instance, if your child is interested in guitar or football, he or she will likely find plenty of like-minded individuals in your community.
If, on the other hand, their interest is collecting old-fashioned paper dolls they might have a little more difficulty finding a local niche to join.
However, if collecting paper dolls is their interest, that is what an individual should be encouraged to develop. In spite of what the nay-sayers might warn, even us old-fashioned-paperdoll-lovers DO fit into society.
The purpose of these social skills worksheets is to assist each individual to mature as a unique and self-directed individual.
Sports & Athletics
This might seem like it should fit into the category above, but I have included it separately for two reasons.
, as stated above, those with less popular interests should feel free to develop them rather than be forced into the mold of society which generally esteems team sports over other areas of interest.
(If you wish to contradict me on this, I would merely ask you to look at the budget of your local middle schools and high schools to see what other hobbies or interests come even close. Oh, and by the way, when was the last time the evening news showed the winner of the high school art contest?)
Let's face it, sports is where it is at. No, please don't pressure your non-athletic child to join team sports if they don't like it.
However, as the Social Skills Pyramid demonstrates, we all need a few areas of expertise and a lot of areas of exposure. A non-athletic person should be encouraged to develop their interests to the peak level, but at least have a base exposure to sports - given its affluence in our society. Athletes who develop team sports as their peak skills also need multiple base exposures. However I think it would probably be more helpful for the collector to watch a few sporting events than for a football player to look at my vintage paperdolls collection.
, even if an individual is not athletic, we as a society are way too sedentary and over-weight. We need to encourage our students to be physically active. That does not require team sports, but it does require developing a personal interest in some form of physical activity to exercise the cardio-vascular system.
- Individual athletic skills
- Team sports
- Watch sporting events
- Practice athletic abilities
- Display good sportsmanship
This set may over-lap with one of the previous two social skills worksheets. If, however, your student prefers solo hobbies and individual sports, participation in another type of club or group may be desirable.
- Interacts positiviely in a group setting
- Does his/her part to help the group complete a goal or project
- Leads a group activity
- Speaks to groups of different sizes
- Is a group leader
Grooming and Hygiene
You may see a distinct difference in the weaknesses common for males and females. Most kids will get to a point where it is important to be presentable (to their peers, at least.) But before that time, mothers often wonder if their child will ever
brush their teeth, keep their nails clean, and generally be presentable.
- Dresses self appropriately
- Brushes teeth and maintains fresh breath
- Bathes regularly
- Always washes hands after using bathroom
- Fingernails kept clean and neat
- Clothes and hair are neat
- Uses deodorant and avoids body odor
- Dresses appropriately for a variety of occasions
The social skills worksheet for Community Events include the following: fairs/festivals, local attractions, tours, sporting events, swimming pools, parks, contests, rallies, concerts, plays, grand opening, parties, etc.
- Attends community events
- Participates in community events
- Volunteers in community events
- Works on a planning committee
- Organizes/leads a community event
Culture and News
This is one of the most important social skills worksheets for high school; since it transcends popular culture and evaluates all cultures (including one's own.)
- Assess positive and negative messages of celebrities
- Assess positive and negative messages of popular TV shows, movies, books
- Recognizes significance of current events
- Interacts with those from other cultures
- Assesses impact of culture on one's own personal choices
- Recognizes issues in political campaigns
- Evaluates international events
- Stays on task until something is finished
- Arrives on time consistently
- Maintains one's own calendar
- Schedules own doctor appointments and other appointments
Consider the message in these two statements I over-heard two different mothers of teenagers say:
"At his age, I refuse to keep track of his schedule. He is old enough to be responsible for his own activities."
"Please give the information to him. He's been keeping his own calendar for several years."
Both mothers want their student to manage their time. It is no coincidence that the second mother who responded more positively is also the mother who took the time to teach how to manage a calendar.
Here's a subject you can't live without! And speaking of socialization, the first few items on this list can really negatively impact a child who does NOT have those habits.
- Doesn't talk with food in mouth
- Good table manners
- Can prepare own meals
- Cooks/bakes to share with others
- Orders at restaurants
- Grocery shops - picks up a few items
- Hosts a meal or picnic for company
- Grocery shops - weekly shopping
Finances and Commerce
Like all of the other lists here, this social skills worksheet could be made much more detailed. Unlike many of the other areas, however, this one should be fully mastered by every young adult ready to leave their parents' home.
- Saves money for a desired purchase
- Compare prices when selecting a purchase
- Repeat the above for various large and small purchases.
- Develops a budget
- Requests product information from stores/companies
- Discusses danger of credit cards
- Maintains checking account
- Establishes a long-term savings plan
This is another social skills worksheet that should be mastered before high school is complete. Get into the habit of having your grade school child act as navigator when going someplace new. During the early elementary years your kids can find the correct gate at an airport, even though it is faster for you to find it yourself.
- Can give directions to one's house
- Knows local landmarks
- Asks directions
- Can use maps and directions to find their way to a new destination
- Uses public transportation
- Finds way around airport/bus station
- Arranges travel plans/purchases tickets
Sadly, conflicts are a fact of life. I just read an article written by a mother who did not want to homeschool so her child would have the opportunity to learn how to settle conflicts in the real world. (In this case the real world is public school. Which makes your home - what?)
Hate to be the one to break the bad news, but homeschoolers have conflicts too - at home and away. Those of you who teach this social skills worksheet will have kids far ahead of that mother who is sending her child to school for the value of learning to resolve conflicts there.
- Avoids disputes when possible
- Able to apologize when wrong
- Forgives when wronged
- Avoids gossip/dispels those who start
- Understands others' point of view
- Uses diplomacy in tense situations
- Recognizes when to alert authorities and when to let things go
- Recognizes when to continue diplomacy and when to extricate themselves from a situation
One study a number of years ago found that 100% of the adult homeschool graduates they surveyed volunteered in one capacity or another. This is probably the least needed social skills worksheet for this population. However, it is included here to make sure you are giving credit where it is due and encouragement where it is needed in this department as well.
- Volunteers in small group (clubs, Sunday schools etc.)
- Fund raising for charitable organizations
- Volunteers to help the needy
- Participates in social causes
The final and ultimate social skills worksheet! The research mentioned above not only found 100% volunteering; but 0% unemployment among homeschool graduates.
- Seeks information on jobs/careers
- Arranges personal references
- Completes application
- Develops resume
- Interviews/improves interviewing skills
- Develops career goals and track
- Continues to develop more specialized resume
Social Skills Worksheets Guide
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to the social skills worksheets/checklist. It is a seventeen page download so your students can track their own progress towards social maturity.